A friend told me that his MO is dealing with the wolves at the door and he wanted to be motivated instead by cheering fans. I think it’s admirable to work for positivity. Part of that positivity is accepting the wolves. The wolves are there to help.
With fear of risk, imposter syndrome, sunk-cost fallacy, all of it… it’s great to accept it and use it. You want to leave your house and there are wolves at the door, just move the wolves to the living room.
Move the wolves
Try to set up a situation where it’s better to deal with the daunting thing than to deal with the opposite.
For example someone complained about something at Boobietrap and it was easily explainable and justifiable. I could have spent some time explaining it to them and giving them a heartfelt apology, but that would have taken me 30 minutes before the show and I could use that time to greet the performers I cared about. Even though complaints feel crazy to me– they give me tunnel vision — I said to myself that the real danger was in not nurturing my relationships. I gave the customer a ticket refund and said “i’m sorry it sucked. We always try to do a great show!”
I feel that the negative and fear are always going to be a driving force. They’re ever-present. So, the solution is to look at them as motivators. Are they motivating us to send a handwritten apology to someone who just doesn’t get it and will never get it, or are they motivating us to put on a brilliant show for 10,000 people who get it and want it?
Understand the wolves
Another big part of the wolf thing is that our mind thinks it’s a matter of survival. We think the wolf at the door will destroy us. Most things are not really about survival when we take a breath and look at them from a calm position. So, realigning with what we want, feeling secure with where we are, and trusting that we can handle whatever, gives us great power to know how to walk past the wolves.
Take action : adopt a wolf
there’s always too much to get done. We’re always on the precipice. dedicate a day (or a half day) to not dealing with any survival stuff and see if you’re still alive. Mantra: “I have what i need, i’ll get what i want”