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  • Suckcess

    Suckcess

    My friends who have “made it” appreciate it and at the same time often hit a cliff. They don’t know what’s next. They don’t know why they did it. They don’t know how to channel that same greatness again.

    It’s a lot.

    Feeling directionless at this point is normal because feeling directionless at any point is normal. It seems there’s a pressure on successful people to understand success better than anyone else. Really, we’re all dingles.

    The funnest way to have a rudder is to remember our mission or our cause. This can give us firm ground. Even if we don’t have the answers, we can have the big answer. Why are we doing this? Why have we always done this.

    We can set up our mission and vision and path and projects so that we always have only one thing to work on. We have clarity and fun whenever we wanna tap in to it.

    Here’s a worksheet i made for you

    Hope you enjoy it!

    https://scot.fun/zNN4
  • Chasing the bar

    Chasing the bar

    I was in San Francisco. A scrappy underdog performing on the streets. Suddenly, I found myself starring in my own theater show with rave reviews and the respect of the performers I idolized. My face was on a billboard. My name was in a theme song. After my show, I would taxi across town to headline in another show.

    I was still the underdog. I was still the young performer who had a long way to go. I didn’t know where I had to go. I didn’t see this identity fading away, but a little bit… I noticed I needed a little more ambition. So, the move to Los Angeles – the entertainment capital of the world. I would surely be surrounded by great stage entertainers.

    I immediately performed in a show with Emmy winning celebrity comedians. Entered a one-man-show competition. The competition was scored by the audiences. I had no friends in LA and the audience was just friends of perfomers. Somehow I tied for first by other peoples’ friends voting!

    I got bummed out. I lost my identity. I know in retrospect, this might look goofy – i felt I was at the top. I lost my underdog identity.

    I started working on creating a show about propaganda. Creatively got a job at a marketing company to study marketing and propaganda. My disappointment with my success in performing made me consider sticking with the marketing job ”til retirement.

    The World Busker Festival called. It was the biggest street performer festival in the world and they didn’t really call anyone. I was invited to perform. I was Eeyore about it and I went. So ungrateful. Christchurch, New Zealand was a paradise especially for a street performer. People were giving me dinner, taking me a bee farm, giving me clothes, cheering, paying me. The performers were incredible. Beyond what i thought was possible.

    I quit my marketing job before I got on the plane home.

    Two things happened at that time of transformation.

    1. I realized the bar is always higher
    2. I remembered being the underdog was never the point of being an entertainer. I wanted to raise the bar for everyone else

    These are the lessons I keep learning. I keep humbling myself and taking on the resposibility to be better than everyone. Do more than anything that’s being done. It enlivens me.

    Take action: Think of one hero you’ve surpassed. Breath that in. Set that as your identity.

  • Popular is a mindfuck

    Popular is a mindfuck

    As an entertainer and over-all stage geek, I have a thing where I try to figure out what’s popular. When I was selling tickets for my self-produced shows I was constantly trying to understand why people buy tickets to things. I wanted to understand why people were famous. I wanted to see what made something a best-seller.

    I wanted all the people that got me to get to me. When I tried to make my shows popular, it bummed me out. I got tired. I got confused. I seriously have trouble empathizing with people who buy full price tickets because usually i get to go everywhere for free.

    It’s not just that popular is generic, it’s that it’s mediocre and mediocre is worse that bad. I like that that previous sentence repeated two words.

    Audiences need to be alive. Filled with life. They can’t be disengaged or fake smiling for the sake of the performer. They need to be living fully.

    Popular is dead.

    Popular is zombie meat – attracting people to a nothing result. Popular is a state with no hope. No pulse. It’s going to a chain restaurant without delighting in the food. We’re here to animate folks. Disrupt and CPR their shit!

    Bad audience

    (generated for simple explaination)

    Good audience

    Look around at a mall. You see mummies looking for name brands at low prices. They have no drive. They will get nothing from it. Look at people at a bold art gallery. Something’s happening here.

    My success in ticket selling came from doubling down on what I thought was good. My sentinel also thought it was good. My favorite people thought it was good too. They came to trust me being specific and me. I didn’t have to worrry about what people saw or what my identity was. I just stood up for what I wanted to happen with my creation.

    Take Action : write down one thing about yourself that other artists often tell you is a mistake. If there isn’t one, make one now.

  • Imposter Syndrome

    Imposter Syndrome

    A study says that 70% of people have experienced imposter syndrome…

    defined as… “the persistent inability to believe that one’s success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one’s own efforts or skills.”

    I call BULLSH

    Every single person in the world has experienced it and keeps on experiencing it. It’s not something that special. It’s not something to cure. It’s the same as gravity. Let’ss live with it. Thank it for keeping us grounded.

    This is the disease that is in every human. Here we are. What will we do from here.

    Take Action: Try to Find someone more qualified than yourself to fully do what you do. Fail at it.

  • Follow dreams. Pursue goals. Fuel next steps.

    Follow dreams. Pursue goals. Fuel next steps.

    An email

    subject: Not sure if you can help

    Hello.My name is ◼️◼️◼️◼️◼️ and I have been practicing magic for about 6 to 7 years now. I started Magic because it was a portable career.I was hitchhiking across the U.S. and it gave me something that I could use to entertain people rather than beg for money or steal or any of that stuff. I mostly do street performing in small crowds 3 to 10 people. And I also do magic at work whenever people request it at the gas station at work. I’m competent and eager to learn and I want to figure out how I can take my Magic to the next step and start actually making some money with it if I even can.

    Like I know People get hired for close up walk arounds and small booths and such. How would I approach getting into some kind of gig like that and what would I need to prepare for that. Really?To be honest I have a lot of questions and i’m not sure What order to ask them in or what Information you need for me to be able to Get a proper informed advice. Really? What I’m asking.

    I guess is what would it cost me to get a 1/2 hour of your time Or an hour to be able to maybe get some direction to my Career and get A Better Idea. Which way I need or want to go with it? I’m fairly broke right would probably be a goal for me to have to save up towards, especially if especially if it’s more than 30 or $40. I would just like to get an idea from someone who knows more than I do some suggestions.I haven’t had any magical mentors ever And i’m pretty much Self-taught from YouTube And magic stream and various other sources.

    I get great reactions from my crowds. And it makes me feel like I want to pursue this more deeply but I’m kind of lost in that kind of sense. Will all stop Rambling and give you a chance to Reply back.

    I just heard your podcast with the professional magician. I loved it and felt like you were the kind of person that I could reach out to and hopefully get an honest answer. And get a positive feedback on how I should focus my efforts. Thank a bunch hope to hear back and have a mystical day.

    My response

    Awesome! Thanks for the note. Street performing has been a major thing for me. It shaped a lot of everything that I do.

    You’ve been working at this for a long time and you’re killing it. I’m sure if you’ve done that many performances, you have a certain skill level with fooling people. The next stage in making it a business is making it something worth money. All pros do something beyond tricks. They have an application that’s valuable.

    tradeshows, for example

    Let’s say you want to be doing $3k days at tradeshows a few times a month. Attracting people to tradeshow booths and doing fun magic and comedy with them. You want to go to the Magic castle a few times a month to hang out with friends. You want to take your dog to the beach every day. In this scenario, you might want to figure out how to turn your magic into something marketable for tradeshow people – corporate marketers. They want a ton of people engaged with their product. You would work on attracting big crowds an pitching products and services.

    You could hit the streets hard. Figure out how to do shows that draw in 100 or more people. Become a human magnet. Anywhere you go, you know how to pull a bunch of people together. you’re unstoppable. do 5 shows a day so you can get really good at it and pay your bills at the same time. Maybe you also start a social account where you enjoyably pitch products. you don’t even have to buy them. go to the mall, pull something off the shelf and make it sound desirable. Do two videos a day. Be bad at these things until you’re great.

    This kind of singular focus will mean fast progress. It might not feel fast, but if you don’t give up and you repeat repeat repeat, you will be killer.

    Then, people won’t even ask you if you can do a gig well. They’ll see you pulling in a huge crowd, they’ll see your pitching prowess, and they’ll know you obviously can make them a lot of money.

    Once we have this goal, it’s easy to answer questions. How much do i charge to perform at this kids show? Cash will help me with my goal, but it won’t help me in any other way, so $4000.

    Take action

    There are a zillion paths for you to take your magic skills. Pretty much anyone is qualified for any path. To get to a really fulfilling destination, you’ll need a big commitment. take some time thinking of the big picture. write down a mission, a vision, and a path. Then, set a goal for 3 years in the future. What lifestyle do you want to be living. I mean really. We imagine everyone would want to live in a mansion, but in reality, mansion living isn’t that fun. Golfing daily is boring.

    Any path you take will probably include relationships with people. You said you haven’t had mentors. It’s a good time to connect with other magicians and performers. Send a lot of emails like you did to me. Start relationships with people that are better and worse than you. Make friendships. Share life.

  • PROGRESS

    PROGRESS

    While progress is the part that is exciting (this is the purpose of the LAP), it’s also the scariest for our recipient (or ourselves). The rubber meets the road and we’re not sure how much rubber it’s gonna cost us. This is the point where cost is calculated. The love and affirmation help us to feel safe in taking a risk. The progress is the risk.

    • How much time, energy, and money is it going to cost me?
    • Is the result worth the cost?
    • How likely is the result going to come in this gamble?

    So, when we’re asked to do something simple, like “just return this contract signed” we probably have a ton of obstacles / objections that are completely unvoiced.

    When asking ourselves or another person to take action, we want to make sure that we take away as many obstacles as possible, don’t add any obstacles, make the result awesome, and build trust that the result will result.

    The LOOTERS format of a proposal makes all this smoother for bigger commitments. WIth smaller commitments and shorter messages, certain things gotta be implied.

    We can reduce cost

    by making the next step we’re requesting be easy.

    Send this contract to your lawyers,

    vs

    Print out and sign this contract

    vs

    Sign this contract online

    vs

    Tell me “heck yeah!”

    We can improve the reward

    by making a clear and believable outcome

    and we’ll move forward toward having production meetings

    vs

    and we’ll continue to the next step

    vs

    and you’ll be 80% to having your show booked

    vs

    and we’ll be all locked in – getting it off your plate and assuring you’ll have a great entertainment experience on June 3!

    Take Action: rebuild

    look thru old text messages that have no response from the recipient. sometimes a response is the only next step you’re requesting. How can you rework one of those messages to clarify the next step? Maybe “send me an emoji and i’ll try to guess where you are”

  • Affirm

    Affirm

    Laura is talking to Arlo. She’s repeating what he’s saying, then saying it again in her own language. He’s crying loud. He’s shouting what he wants. He is not going to get what he wants. He wants Mr. Piggy to talk on the phone. Laura is my wife. Arlo is my 4yo. Mr. Piggy is the dog.

    Arlo repeats. Laura rephrases and tells him that it’s not happening in a sweet way. I fluctuate between wanting to laugh and wanting to move on.

    It’s just not happening. This crying and repeating isn’t fun. The shouting doesn’t get us anywhere. We have plenty of fun things to do right now. Let’s move on it!

    I sit and observe. Laura’s right. She’s affirming. She’s staying present in the situation with Arlo so that he can process what’s happening. Confronting it and noticing it and logging it will help him understand it. It will help him figure out what it means. It will help him practice appreciating that the feelings don’t always match the situation. It will reinforce that he’s safe.

    We all need this affirmation.

    My fear when trying to affirm is that I’ll be stuck in wallowing or celebrating and will never progress. This fear can prevent me from feeling myself or connecting with others.

    The second step in LAP is affirmation. It’s very important. It’s important to affirm the whole picture too.

    Take action: notice something mirky

    Think of something that’s kinda been abandoned in your life – your health, your finances, a relationship, the cleanliness of your shoes. Make a true statement to yourself about it. Take in the whole picture and describe it and how you feel about it.

  • Love

    Love

    Real love is internal. Real gratitude is internal.

    We can express our love or our gratitude. Expression is external. It’s helpful to have a starting place of how to express the stuff.

    Start with effect

    Magic catalogs list tricks starting with the effect. They first describe what the audience sees. Telling the story of something impossible happening. Here’s an example from penguin magic…

    You show a coin and place it on your spectator’s hand. With complete confidence you wave your hand (fingers open) over the coin…

    The coin vanishes right before the spectator’s eyes in one of the most visual moments in all of magic. The best part is, your hands can be shown completely clean!

    Explaining the difference the trick makes is a great way to describe the trick in a way that matters. Explaining the difference in ourselves is a great way to express love. Instead of “I love you sooo much” saying “my eyes go crossed when I think of your smile”

    More examples…

    • “You made me rethink my situation and it blew me away”
    • “that one small gift is still sticking in my head 3 years later”
    • “it inspires me to see what you’re doing for kids”
    • “I could really use a wink from you right now”

    Real love … real words

    We can want people to do things for us and love them at the same time. We can think that things that are good for us are mutually beneficial. When I tell artists to fall in love with their customers, I mean it genuinely. Love people. Express the love. Sincerely. being real is more fun and more convincing and more valuable to everyone.

    Easy to believe

    When there’s some objectivity, there’s believability. Saying the result of love makes us sound more real. It feels good to remind ourselves what we mean by love. It attunes us to what’s important to us.

    Take action : Tell someone how they change or have changed you.

  • LOOTERS – A detailed proposal format without any  wreckage

    LOOTERS – A detailed proposal format without any wreckage

    Yesterday, I wrote about the LAP – a shortcut for progressive communication. Here’s a longer shortcut. When making a proposal, there’s often a lot more to communicate and we want to do it in order.

    Here’s a video about it.

    I may or may not have had a sore throat. since recording it, i’ve changed the R to Results.

    L 💚 Love – Express genuine love and enthusiasm for the person and their project. ( show love )
    O 🎯 Objective – Clearly state the objectives and goals of the person you’re addressing. ( value pile )
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Highlight the opportunity and how you can help achieve the objectives. ( opportunity )
    T 🤝 Trust – Build trust by sharing your credentials, past successes, and testimonials. ( trust )
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the scope of work and what effort will be required to achieve the objectives. ( effort )
    R 📋 Results – Specify the results, including cost and any necessary resources or conditions. ( results )
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide a clear next action for the client to take. ( step forward )

    Here’s a thorough ChatGPT prompt to help you craft one. I haven’t tested this prompt very much. Please let me know how it goes.

    I want you to help me write a proposal to a prospect using Scot Nery’s LOOTERS format. I’m an entertainer. I want you to ask me a series of questions until you completely understand all the info necessary to write a complete proposal. All of this is custom to the situation, so it will take you asking me many questions.

    give me the whole proposal in a code box as plain text, ready to copy and paste to the prospect. The client does not need to know that I am using the LOOTERS format. The text should flow well for the reader. We don’t need headings. don’t add confusing characters like “*” or emojis. make it read like a normal email.

    important: Ask me one question at a time.
    the first question is “is this proposal for a single person (point of contact), or for a commitee? ” second question is “what is the point of contact’s name?”
    Objective:
    Create a detailed, collaborative, and educational proposal using the LOOTERS framework. The proposal should be tailored for freelance artists pitching entertainment gigs to prospects after having a conversation with them. Ensure each section is thorough, clear, and aligns with the client’s needs, fostering a sense of partnership and mutual goal achievement. The tone should be warm, inclusive, and professional—never salesy or pushy.
    Introduction to LOOTERS Framework
    The LOOTERS framework is a structured approach to crafting proposals that ensures each section serves a distinct purpose, collectively building a compelling and client-focused document. This framework is designed to foster collaboration, clarity, and value, making the proposal both informative and engaging for the client. Below is a detailed breakdown of each section:
    L 💚 Love – Show Genuine Enthusiasm
    Purpose: Express heartfelt enthusiasm and genuine care for the client and their project. Establish an emotional connection and set a positive, collaborative tone.
    Key Elements:
    Specific admiration for the client’s work, mission, or achievements.
    Personal anecdotes or examples that highlight why you value working with them.
    Inclusive language that emphasizes a partnership approach.
    The love section could also include personal reasons I’m interested in the prospect’s success / life. “eg: we are both Fighting Buckeys!” or “My father suffered from ALS, so your work in that field is dear to my heart”
    O 🎯 Objective – Define Their Goals
    Purpose: Clearly articulate the client’s goals and objectives, creating a comprehensive “value pile” that outlines desired outcomes.
    Key Elements:
    Detailed and measurable objectives.
    Inclusive language (e.g., “we want to achieve…”).
    Alignment with the client’s broader mission or vision.
    explore the idea of obstacles that may come up eg “we want the show to inspire the staff to start conversations, even though they usually are very introverted”
    the more overlapping objectives we can include in here, the more irreplaceable I will be.
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Show Feasibility and Confidence
    Purpose: Reassure the client that their objectives are achievable and worth the commitment. Highlight unique opportunities and instill confidence through examples or success stories.
    Key Elements:
    Confident statements about the feasibility of achieving goals.
    Examples of past successes with similar clients or projects.
    Emphasis on why this moment is ideal for action.
    T 🤝 Trust – Build Credibility
    Purpose: Establish trust by showcasing your expertise, experience, and past successes. Provide objective proof of your ability to deliver.
    Key Elements:
    Credentials, testimonials, and relevant case studies.
    Specific stories or examples that demonstrate reliability and success.
    Clear connection between your expertise and the client’s needs.
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the Work
    Purpose: Transparently outline the scope of work, including contributions from both sides, with financial details presented last. Include detailed package options with flat rates.
    Key Elements:
    Broad descriptions of tasks and responsibilities.
    Specific client contributions beyond financial investment (e.g., meetings, resources).
    Detailed package options with comprehensive scope of work for each flat-rate package.
    Clear, upfront presentation of financial costs after outlining effort.
    R 📋 Results – Specify Outcomes
    Purpose: Summarize the objectives with added excitement, clearly specifying the outcomes and benefits the client will gain. This serves as a TL;DR of the Objectives section.
    Key Elements:
    Clear, measurable, and inspiring outcomes.
    Direct tie to the client’s goals.
    Emphasis on the value and impact of achieving these results.
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide Next Steps
    Purpose: Offer a clear, actionable next step for the client to take, ensuring the process feels easy and inviting.
    Key Elements:
    Specific and simple actions (e.g., scheduling a meeting, replying to confirm).
    Collaborative language that reinforces partnership.
    Elimination of any ambiguity to facilitate smooth progression.
    Detailed Instructions for ChatGPT
    To ensure the proposal is comprehensive, high-value, and aligns perfectly with the LOOTERS framework, follow these detailed steps:
    Step 1: Understand the Client and Context
    Begin by gathering in-depth information about the client and the project to tailor the proposal effectively.
    Client Overview:
    Questions to Ask:
    Who is the client? (e.g., individual artist, organization, event coordinator)
    What is their mission or primary focus?
    What are their standout qualities, achievements, or unique aspects?
    What do we admire about their work or goals?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you share a specific project or achievement of the client that inspires us?”
    “What values or missions do they prioritize in their work?”
    Gig or Project Description:
    Questions to Ask:
    What type of gig or project are we proposing? (e.g., live performance, workshop, collaborative event)
    Describe the tone and style of the gig. (e.g., energetic, educational, interactive)
    What specific goals or outcomes do we envision for this gig?
    What is the setting or context? (e.g., corporate event, community festival, private party)
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you elaborate on the desired atmosphere or experience for the audience?”
    “What are the key elements that must be included in this performance?”
    Relationship Context:
    Questions to Ask:
    What is our current relationship with the prospect? (e.g., new client, repeat client, referral)
    How familiar is the client with our work or services?
    Have we collaborated before? If so, what was the outcome?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you describe any past interactions or projects with this client?”
    “How does the client typically engage with our services?”
    Step 2: Dive Into Each Section of LOOTERS
    For each LOOTERS section, ask specific, probing questions to ensure completeness and depth. Use the following guidelines:
    L 💚 Love – Show Genuine Enthusiasm
    Purpose: Build an emotional connection by expressing genuine admiration and excitement for the client and their project.
    Questions to Ask:
    What specific aspects of the client’s work or mission do we admire?
    How does this project align with our own passions or values?
    Can we share a personal anecdote or example that highlights why we’re excited to work with them?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we describe a particular moment or project of theirs that left a strong impression on us?”
    “What unique qualities of the client inspire us the most?”
    O 🎯 Objective – Define Their Goals
    Purpose: Clearly outline the client’s goals in detail, creating a comprehensive list of desired outcomes.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the primary objectives the client wants to achieve with this project?
    What problems (pain points) does your prospect have? What’s going to cost them time, money, and/or energy?
    Are there any secondary or long-term goals associated with these objectives?
    How do these goals align with the client’s broader mission or vision?
    Can we break down each objective into specific, measurable components?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we identify any additional objectives that would enhance the value of this project?”
    “How can we prioritize these objectives to reflect the client’s most important goals?”
    We’re trying to turn implied objectives and obstacles into explicit objectives.
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Show Feasibility and Confidence
    Purpose: Reassure the client that their goals are achievable and worth the commitment by highlighting unique opportunities and past successes.
    Questions to Ask:
    Why is this project or opportunity particularly special or timely for the client?
    What makes this an ideal moment for the client to act on their goals?
    Do we have examples of past clients who achieved similar objectives? What were the outcomes?
    What confident statements or data can we provide to demonstrate feasibility?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we share a success story of a similar project that achieved outstanding results?”
    “What unique advantages do we offer that make this opportunity particularly promising?”
    T 🤝 Trust – Build Credibility
    Purpose: Establish trust by showcasing expertise, experience, and past successes relevant to the client’s needs.
    Questions to Ask:
    What credentials, certifications, or qualifications do we have that are relevant to this project?
    Do we have testimonials or case studies from past clients that align with the current prospect’s goals?
    Can we highlight specific achievements or projects that demonstrate our ability to deliver similar results?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we provide a detailed case study that mirrors the client’s current objectives?”
    “What testimonials can we include that specifically speak to our reliability and success?”
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the Work
    Purpose: Transparently outline the scope of work, including contributions from both sides, with financial details presented last. Include detailed package options with flat rates.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the main tasks and responsibilities we will undertake to achieve the objectives?
    What specific contributions will the client need to make beyond financial investment? (e.g., meetings, resources)
    What logistical details, timelines, or deliverables should be included to set clear expectations?
    What package options can we offer that include detailed scope of work with flat rates?
    How can we structure these packages to provide flexibility and clarity without overwhelming the client?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we outline the specific steps we’ll take to prepare and execute the gig?”
    “What client contributions are essential for the success of this project?”
    “Can we develop comprehensive package options that include all necessary elements without itemized pricing?”
    R 📋 Results – Specify Outcomes
    Purpose: Provide a concise summary of the objectives with added excitement, clearly specifying the outcomes and benefits the client will gain.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the tangible benefits and results the client will achieve from this project?
    How can we make these outcomes measurable and specific?
    What is the emotional or business impact of achieving these results for the client?
    How can we tie the outcomes directly to the client’s initial objectives?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we quantify the expected outcomes to make them more compelling?”
    “How can we phrase the results to highlight their significance and excitement?”
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide Next Steps
    Purpose: Offer a clear, actionable next step for the client to take, ensuring the process feels easy and inviting.
    Questions to Ask:
    What is the simplest and most inviting next step for the client?
    How can we phrase this step to make it feel effortless and collaborative?
    Should we suggest a specific meeting, reply, or action to facilitate smooth progression?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we propose a specific time for a follow-up call or meeting to discuss the proposal further?”
    “What action can we ask the client to take that feels natural and unobtrusive?”
    Step 3: Ensure Completeness and High-Value Content
    For each section, evaluate whether enough information is provided to create a high-value proposal. If any section feels incomplete or lacks depth, ask additional, specific questions to gather the necessary details.
    Love:
    “Do we have enough specific examples of what we admire about the client?”
    “Can we include a personal story that highlights our enthusiasm?”
    Objective:
    “Have we clearly defined all of the client’s main and secondary objectives?”
    “Are the objectives measurable and aligned with their broader goals?”
    Opportunity:
    “Is the opportunity presented in a way that feels urgent and valuable?”
    “Do we have enough examples or confident statements to show feasibility?”
    Trust:
    “Have we included all relevant credentials and testimonials?”
    “Are our past successes clearly connected to the client’s current needs?”
    Effort:
    “Are the scope of work and client contributions fully detailed?”
    “Do our package options include comprehensive descriptions of services?”
    Results:
    “Are the outcomes clearly tied to the client’s objectives?”
    “Have we quantified the benefits to make them more compelling?”
    Step Forward:
    “Is the next step clear and easy for the client to take?”
    “Have we provided a specific, actionable instruction for moving forward?”
    Step 4: Draft the Proposal
    Once all sections are complete and thoroughly detailed, compile the information into a cohesive, polished proposal following the LOOTERS structure.
    Guidelines for Drafting:
    Use clear, engaging, and professional language.
    Maintain a warm and collaborative tone throughout.
    Ensure each section flows logically into the next, building a compelling narrative.
    Highlight measurable results and actionable steps to reinforce value.
    Avoid jargon or overly technical terms that might confuse the client.
    Step 5: Review and Refine
    After drafting, conduct a thorough review to ensure the proposal aligns with the client’s needs and your vision for the project.
    Questions to Ask During Review:
    “Does this proposal fully address the client’s objectives and demonstrate how we can achieve them?”
    “Is the tone consistently collaborative and educational, avoiding any salesy language?”
    “Are all sections complete, detailed, and free from ambiguity?”
    “Do the Effort packages provide clear, comprehensive descriptions without relying on itemized or hourly pricing?”
    “Are the Results compelling, measurable, and directly tied to the client’s goals?”
    “Is the Call to Action clear, simple, and inviting for the client to take the next step?”
    Refinement Steps:
    Adjust language for clarity and impact.
    Add or remove details to enhance each section’s effectiveness.
    Ensure the overall proposal is easy to read and visually appealing.
    Step 6: Examples to Guide the Process
    Provide examples for each LOOTERS section to ensure clarity and consistency. These examples should reflect the tone and detail expected in the proposal.
    Example for “Love”
    Instead of:
    “We love what you’re doing!”
    Use:
    “We love how your event combines creativity and community, especially your focus on supporting local artists. That’s something we’re passionate about, too, and it’s why we’re so excited to work together.”
    Example for “Objective”
    Instead of:
    “You want a great show for your guests.”
    Use a Value Pile:
    “We want to create a high-energy, engaging experience for your audience that: Feels personalized to your event theme. Impresses attendees with a unique act they’ve likely never seen before. Keeps the energy high throughout the evening. Is easy to set up and run without stress.”
    Example for “Opportunity”
    Instead of:
    “We’ve done this kind of event before—it’s possible!”
    Use Confident Statements and Examples:
    “We’ve worked with organizations like yours to deliver similar events, and they’ve seen incredible results. For example, last year, we helped a local nonprofit create a live performance series that boosted attendance by 30% and left attendees raving for weeks. Your event has all the right elements to achieve the same success.”
    Example for “Trust”
    Instead of:
    “My horse just performed at a venue like yours.”
    Use Specificity and Detail:
    “At the Governor’s Ball, my horse became the centerpiece of the evening, drawing gasps and applause from a room of 500 corporate executives.”
    Example for “Effort” with Detailed Packages
    Instead of:
    “I’ll need to arrive early and set up.”
    Use Transparency and Detailed Packages:
    “Our work includes: Arriving two hours before the event to handle all setup and technical needs. Providing a 45-minute performance with interactive elements to keep the audience engaged. Creating custom material tailored to your event theme. Conducting a tech rehearsal to ensure everything runs smoothly. Staying afterward for a 15-minute meet-and-greet with attendees. Our flat-rate packages are designed to make the process simple and flexible: Package A: Performance Only – $2,500 Includes a 45-minute show and setup. Package B: Performance + Interaction – $3,500 Includes everything in Package A, plus a 15-minute meet-and-greet. Package C: Full Engagement – $5,000 Includes everything in Package B, plus custom material creation and a tech rehearsal.”
    Example for “Results”
    Use a Concise Summary with Excitement:
    “This program will increase audience engagement by 30%, provide a unique and memorable experience, and position your event as a standout in the community. The total investment of $5,000 will cover all aspects of the performance, ensuring a seamless and impactful evening for all attendees.”
    Example for “Step Forward”
    Use Clear and Specific Instructions:
    “If this proposal aligns with your vision, let’s schedule a quick 15-minute call next week to finalize the details and get started. Please reply with your availability, and we’ll coordinate a time that works for you.”
    Step 4: Begin the Process
    Start by asking detailed questions to gather all necessary information about the client and the project.
    About the Client:
    Who is the client? What do they do, and what do we admire about them?
    Can you share a specific project or achievement of the client that inspires us?
    About the Project:
    What type of gig or project are we proposing? Describe it in plain English, including tone, style, and specific goals.
    What is the setting or context (e.g., corporate event, workshop, creative collaboration)?
    About the Relationship:
    What is our relationship with the prospect? Are they a new client, a returning one, or someone familiar with our work?
    How much do they already know about what we do?
    Once you have these details, proceed to dive into each LOOTERS section with targeted questions to ensure completeness and depth.
    Final Notes
    Tone and Language:
    Use inclusive “we” language to emphasize partnership.
    Maintain a warm, professional, and supportive tone.
    Ensure clarity and avoid jargon to make the proposal easy to read and understand.
    Avoiding Pitfalls:
    Don’t be vague or generic—be specific and detailed.
    Avoid being overly formal or salesy; keep the focus on collaboration and mutual success.
    Ensure financial details are clear but presented after establishing value and effort.
    Customization and Flexibility:
    Tailor each proposal to the specific client and project.
    Use examples and detailed descriptions to make each section relevant and compelling.
    Be prepared to ask follow-up questions to gather any missing information. Really get the proposal to empathize with the point person or committee so that it speaks their language. Push me and ask me new questions to get it out of me. before each question, tell me little status updates like “I think we’re almost there. I may have 5 more questions…” or “We’re 50% of the way there. stick with me!”
  • Love, Affirm, Progress – Take a leap forward together

    Love, Affirm, Progress – Take a leap forward together

    We all want a shortcut to having others do our bidding because our bidding is always right! We do this with their best interest at heart.

    Everyone is great!

    1. I can get impatient. I see a solution to a situation and I want it moving. I want to go and fix and make things awesome ASAP. I can get fixated on progress. I can be pushy or seem irrational.
    2. Others feel safest when they’re analyzing a situation. Pick it apart, figure out how it feels. Maybe even wallow in it.
    3. Some folks want to appreciate themselves and others. They want to give a lot of love and find a lot of love.

    All these people are rad. I love people who weigh heavier on these different stages.

    Success in communication and empathy

    We are tribal. A primary drive is to not be alone. As a result, we’ve all gotten lots of hours in of understanding empathy, motivation, and communication styles of others.

    Let’s move! Ignore the personality types.

    There are labels that people put on people. Eg: this person is type-a or this is a D on the DISC scale. To me, it feels a little icky though I appreciate that people are trying to connect. Instead of objectifying people, I try to systematize the process. A friend calls it my LAP dance. Love, Affirm, Progress.

    From the list at the top, you can see them in reverse order : 1️⃣ progress (what we do next) 2️⃣ affirm (where we at) 3️⃣ love (show that we’re safe and all on the same page)

    Meet people wherever they are with the LAP

    If the recipient of your message is in need of any part of the LAP, giving them the whole thing will do the trick. We can give them the whole LAP and they’ll join us along the way 😀

    Here’s an example of a text message using the LAP.

    I’m pumped to see you! I need your sunshine right now! You’re so great at picking restaurants that are delicious and adventurous. I know you put a ton of thought into Sandy’s Diner. Could you possibly find a spot that has more vegan things on the menu?

    We all need this

    Everyone needs all three stages. Sometimes those stages are implied. For me, the LAP is a way to know the process to get people to understand how I think. For me, being unbalancedly progress oriented, it reminds me to tell people the truth up front

    • I really do love the people I’m talking to.
    • I appreciate the situation we’re in and i want it to be even better
    • I am eager to present a way to move forward with fun

    Any of us can get stuck in any part of the LAP, so this is a way to be more well-rounded in communication.

    The technique can expand to large writing projects or oral communication or whatever!

    Take Action : send a text

    practice it now. Send a message to someone with something easy you want to improve, propose a phone call, or whatever. Giving someone an all-three message is a great gift. It keeps us playing the game of life together.

  • Tribal Margin of Acceptance

    Tribal Margin of Acceptance

    We want to think bigger like other people do. It feels dangerous. There’s a reason that trying to do gigs for 2x as much feels like life or death. There’s a reason that imagining buying a big house with art makes us eat a whole pizza.

    It’s a matter of life and death.

    We’re tribal. We live in tribes and we die when we leave them. Living in a tribe in a village, if we’re kicked out of the village, if the tribe rejects us, we are dead. We can’t defend ourselves, we can’t find food or water. We die. Rejection kills us. This is built in to who we are. So, when my tribe (the people i surround myself with) tells me that I’m not allowed to live in a trailer park, and I’m also not allowed to live in a 5 bedroom house with a pool, I listen. I know that they’re right. It’s an unquestioned ruling that is built into my nervous system. It’s just as important as looking out for tigers.

    Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This makes it sound like a delightful little tidbit to make our lives a little better and it’s a good thing to remember. The truth of why it feels so important and impossible sometimes to swing for the fences, is that we are gonna die.

    The people that care about us also want to keep us safe. They want to keep us in the tribe and want everyone in the tribe to accept us. That means caring advice is often bad advice – it’s based on preservation in an artifical dangerzone rather than growth and thriving.

    By having big ambitions, it’s worth it to do big stuff.

    Rebel

    One thing we can do is risk death by denying the tribal margin of acceptance. We can rebel against what our loved ones tell us. This sucks because it makes us feel in danger the entire time we’re doing it

    Move

    We can change tribes. This is painful if done all at once. Say goodbye to everyone close and move on. This is a thing that addicts in recovery or reformed criminals can do especially when actual life and death is on the line.

    Lens Change

    We can have conversations with people who are most influential to us. We can find out if our boyfriend really wants us to get a day job, or if that’s a misinterpretation. We can find out if our aunt really believes that art is a waste. Even though our tribe can be limiting, sometimes it’s helpful to see what the real limits are so we can expand within them.

    Take action : get out

    Send a text message right now to someone that’s inspirational to you. Someone who might feel like they’re too good for you. Someone who you think has a good quality that could rub off. We don’t have to cancel our entire tribe. We can just take a loaf of bread to another one.

  • OPOV : Objective Proof of Value

    OPOV : Objective Proof of Value

    In this popular post i wrote, I talked about some devices i use to show value on a single page website. It’s the same stuff i use for all promo materials. It can be costly to get all the content together. The costly parts are the branding and the organization of the educational materials. I call those educational materials OPOV.

    Here’s the sheet so you can organize your sheet. Holy sheet!

    https://scot.fun/zNNa