{"id":4730,"date":"2025-11-08T10:15:09","date_gmt":"2025-11-08T18:15:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/?p=4730"},"modified":"2025-11-08T10:15:13","modified_gmt":"2025-11-08T18:15:13","slug":"referrals-recommendations-the-sweet-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/referrals-recommendations-the-sweet-way\/","title":{"rendered":"Referrals \/ Recommendations the sweet way"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"414\" data-attachment-id=\"4731\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/referrals-recommendations-the-sweet-way\/img_1998-copy-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1036&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1036\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.2&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 16 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;2.2&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;320&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.016666666666667&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_1998 copy 2\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?fit=1024%2C414&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2.jpg?resize=1024%2C414&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4731\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?resize=1024%2C414&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?resize=300%2C121&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?resize=768%2C311&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?resize=1536%2C622&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_1998-copy-2-scaled.jpg?resize=2048%2C829&amp;ssl=1 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We know people who are social duct tape. &#8220;You HAVE to see this artist&#8221; or &#8220;I know exactly who you need to talk to.&#8221; They see how things fit together and they get excited about making introductions. These people are gold. We can empower them and breed them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most people want to refer but they&#8217;re calculating the cost. They need to figure out the technology of Yelp or whatever platform. They might need to reach out to people they&#8217;ve been putting off talking to. They need the right words. And they&#8217;re risking their reputation as a curator and human being. That&#8217;s a lot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here&#8217;s what actually works: Show everyone how all three people win, make it easy, and show them we&#8217;ll treat their referral right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The natural referrers already get it.<\/strong> When they refer an artist, they&#8217;re thinking:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Their friend gets to have the same experience they had<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The artist gets a well-deserved fan who&#8217;ll appreciate their work<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>They look philanthropic to the artist and knowledgeable about secret underground talent to their friend<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Three wins. That&#8217;s the referral engine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Make the wins obvious.<\/strong> At <a href=\"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/scot-nerys-boobietrap\/\">Boobietrap<\/a>, I tell everyone we have 5 stars on Yelp. Someone might think &#8220;I like this weird show, but I don&#8217;t know if my friends will.&#8221; They hear everyone likes it and suddenly a recommendation feels safer. All three wins become clear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Show love to everyone.<\/strong> People see we care about our customers and they trust we&#8217;ll take care of their referrals. Confident putting their reputation on the line because they know we&#8217;ll do good stuff with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Make it stupid easy.<\/strong> Lower the cost of referring. Simple link to share. Pre-written text they can copy. No complicated sign-up process for their friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Tell them what matters.<\/strong> Don&#8217;t make people figure out what to say. Help them focus on what&#8217;s important. &#8220;I would love for you to tell a friend that this magic show was great for short attention span people.&#8221; Or &#8220;I&#8217;m pumped that you thought what I did was a low-priced version of the LA Orchestra. Could you tell someone that?&#8221; Give them the language that captures what made their experience special.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Be clear about what we do and who it&#8217;s for.<\/strong> &#8220;I love connecting with parents who are way too busy with life to plan their kids&#8217; whole birthday party.&#8221; When people understand exactly who benefits from what we do, they can spot the perfect referral in their own network. They&#8217;re not guessing if their friend would like it. They know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The math is simple. Most businesses try to create referrals with discounts or commissions. 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