{"id":2158,"date":"2024-07-30T12:44:01","date_gmt":"2024-07-30T19:44:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/?p=2158"},"modified":"2024-07-30T12:44:27","modified_gmt":"2024-07-30T19:44:27","slug":"hard-like-a-hammer-easy-like-a-unicorn-unblocked","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scot.fun\/damentals\/hard-like-a-hammer-easy-like-a-unicorn-unblocked\/","title":{"rendered":"Hard like a hammer. Easy like a Unicorn. UNBLOCKED"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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When I feel stuck. It\u2019s selfish. I want to be in the mindset of creativity and generosity<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Hammer not a unicorn <\/strong>we try to feel special because we think that will give our lives meaning and make us fulfilled in being different.\u00a0 THis is a misinterpretation of feelings.\u00a0 We want to be useful.\u00a0 When I see a hammer that\u2019s old and has no scratches or dents, i know that\u2019s an unfulfilled hammer.\u00a0 That hammer doesn\u2019t see herself as very powerful or useful.\u00a0 A unicorn is beautiful and special and interesting, but what use does it have? We are most fulfilled when we’re exhausted from doing something awesome. We’re most fulfilled when we’re used fully and wrecked as an ugly tool. Appreciated, not ogeled .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quit the sacrifice <\/strong>\u00a0I want to continue the mindset of being generous and creative as many microseconds of my life as possible.\u00a0 To do this, we need to make it sustainable.\u00a0 If you think being self-sacrificing is sustainable, you\u2019re a dummy.\u00a0 And being sacrificing isn\u2019t generous.\u00a0 Generosity comes from having something, and then giving it.\u00a0 Gratitude is the key to having something in surplus and knowing what you have so you can give it. If you have a terrible life, why try to defend it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why Generosity is the solution <\/strong>when i\u2019m nervous about getting on stage, it\u2019s because i\u2019m being selfish. I\u2019m thinking about protecting myself from humiliation, harm and other suffering. The powerful mindset for me that has gotten me on stage since age 11 ( including in 15,000 seat amphitheaters ) is generosity \u201cI can help these people\u201d \u201cWithout me, these folks will be bored\u201d etc. This is the same case with writer\u2019s block, going on dates, job interviews, pitch meetings, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why mindset and not a feeling <\/strong>Feelings are great. We\u2019re human beings with awesome feelings — all of the feelings are gifts and they\u2019re also out of our control. I believe a lot of our language around feelings is messed up.\u00a0 \u201cDid that make you happy\u201d \u201cyou hurt my feelings\u201d \u201ci\u2019m feeling bad\u201d… Our feelings are changing all the time. I can feel angry at the moment I get exactly what I want. I can feel happy when I hear a dear friend dies. Believing that these feelings are wrong or that I need to seek \u201cpositive feelings\u201d has wasted a lot of time for me.\u00a0 You can\u2019t buy happiness, but you also can\u2019t therapy happiness, or marry happiness, or give birth to happiness. Happiness is a feeling that can pass in 15 seconds. Is that worth a life\u2019s pursuit?\u00a0 We have much more control over our mindsets.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My pen breaks. I can have the mindset of \u201c I\u2019ll never find another pen like this. This was my favorite pen. This will teach me to ever fall in love with anything. I broke it because I\u2019m stupid.  I could have done more pen maintenance, but I\u2019m a lazy dick.\u201d  Or you can have the mindset \u201cI\u2019m free to get a new pen! Who knows how deeply I might love the next one? I love shopping. I am grateful that I got to use such an awesome pen for as long as i did. Some people never experience the relationship that my pen and I had.\u201d  I can be sad, mad, scared, joyful, peaceful, powerful with either of these mindsets. I could go through all of these feelings too.  For me, the second mindset helps me move forward. It motivates me to move on to the next challenge with enthusiasm and energy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can choose that mindset, so why not choose that one?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take action : journal and decide<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

write down how you feel now. Really feel it. Appreciate it, enjoy it. soak it in. Without trying to change the feeling, write down a mindset how you want it to be. Let the feeling linger as long as it wants. Believe the new mindset. Gain power and gusto from making a strong decision<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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